{"id":919,"date":"2023-08-01T08:02:00","date_gmt":"2023-08-01T08:02:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wellnessfamilycare.com\/wellnessdev2\/?p=919"},"modified":"2023-08-20T20:27:14","modified_gmt":"2023-08-20T20:27:14","slug":"919-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wellnessfamilycare.com\/wellnessdev2\/919-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Do vs. Be"},"content":{"rendered":"\n[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.18.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; da_is_popup=&#8221;off&#8221; da_exit_intent=&#8221;off&#8221; da_has_close=&#8221;on&#8221; da_alt_close=&#8221;off&#8221; da_dark_close=&#8221;off&#8221; da_not_modal=&#8221;on&#8221; da_is_singular=&#8221;off&#8221; da_with_loader=&#8221;off&#8221; da_has_shadow=&#8221;on&#8221; da_disable_devices=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.18.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_column _builder_version=&#8221;4.18.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.18.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>As I was thinking about an article for this month, I watched an excellent video on Facebook of a commencement address at NC State by graduate, Kelsey O\u2019Connor, class of \u201823. She addressed the question that many new graduates face, \u201cWhat are you going to do next?\u201d\u00a0 Many people face this question when they are going through transition in their lives\u2026 graduating from school, changing jobs, retiring.\u00a0 Now that Dr. Corey is working at the office and doing such a great job, I get asked all the time what my plans are?\u00a0 And no, I\u2019m not retiring now.\u00a0 Having Corey-in-the-house has increased my longevity, as I can take more time off and leave my practice members in his capable hands.\u00a0 I\u2019m staying around.\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Kelsey addressed the question of \u201cwhat are you going to do?\u201d and described how many of us define ourselves by the roles that we play.\u00a0 Our labels.\u00a0 I know of people who had their situation change and \u201clost\u201d their label, through a job loss, a relationship change, or a change in life circumstance.\u00a0 These people sometimes struggle with their identity as a result.\u00a0 Some people have a hard time when they retire and feel they have lost purpose.\u00a0 When COVID hit, one friend told me he was\u00a0miserable as he was at home and not working and not feeling productive. Kelsey describes how she entered school as an athlete, and would define\u00a0herself based on the things she did as a student.\u00a0 After a serious concussion that ended her softball career, she struggled to re-learn how to speak and could no longer prove herself through\u00a0her performance of any kind.\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Kelsey addressed the issue that the important question we face in life is not \u201cWhat do we want to do?\u201d but \u201cWhat do we want to be?\u201d\u00a0 She describes the work of healing herself, in part, by changing the way that she saw and spoke about others.\u00a0 Instead of looking at \u201clabels\u201d, she looked at the person\u2019s attitude, the way they treat others and what makes them uniquely beautiful.\u00a0 She would introduce and describe her roommate, not as an engineer, but as a kind, independent adventurous person who cares deeply about her family.\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><br style=\"font-weight: 400;\" \/><strong>John Lennon famously tells the story that in school he was asked what he wanted to be when he grew up.\u00a0 He wrote down \u201chappy\u201d.\u00a0 Apparently they told him he didn\u2019t understand the question, and he told them they didn\u2019t understand life.\u00a0<\/strong><br style=\"font-weight: 400;\" \/><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>If you would like to hear Kelsey\u2019s address, I have posted it on Shaughnessy Wellness\u2019 Facebook page.\u00a0 Whether or not you are facing a coming transition in job or retirement looms ahead, it is a healthy exercise to define yourself by who you are and not what you do.\u00a0 I like Kelsey\u2019s example of identifying qualities in others and highlighting them over that person\u2019s job.\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Members of our practice fill out a health questionnaire when they start care and repeat the same health survey at reassessments.\u00a0 It has the obvious questions in it about pain and stiffness, but then it has strange questions about \u201clife enjoyment\u201d that people often wonder why we are asking.\u00a0 These questions are based on a study of 2800 patients who saw changes in all of these areas of health while undergoing Network Care.\u00a0 This is why we have patients rate \u201clevel of compassion for others\u201d and \u201cinterest in maintaining a healthy lifestyle\u201d or \u201cincidence of feelings of joy and\/or happiness\u201d.\u00a0 The greater the brain:body connection, which we are strengthening with Network Care, the more the person as a whole can function in a healthy manner.\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>This summer, I encourage you to focus on what you want to<span>\u00a0<\/span><u>be<\/u><span>\u00a0<\/span>over the labels that try and define who you are.\u00a0 I like Kelsey\u2019s criteria- \u201cattitude, the way we treat others and what makes us uniquely beautiful\u201d.\u00a0 Make sure you get in to the office for regular tune ups and maintain that brain body connection so\u00a0that you can fully live out the person that you want to be.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; theme_builder_area=&#8221;post_content&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.18.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; da_is_popup=&#8221;off&#8221; da_exit_intent=&#8221;off&#8221; da_has_close=&#8221;on&#8221; da_alt_close=&#8221;off&#8221; da_dark_close=&#8221;off&#8221; da_not_modal=&#8221;on&#8221; da_is_singular=&#8221;off&#8221; da_with_loader=&#8221;off&#8221; da_has_shadow=&#8221;on&#8221; da_disable_devices=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221;][\/et_pb_section]\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As I was thinking about an article for this month, I watched an excellent video on Facebook of a commencement address at NC State by graduate, Kelsey O\u2019Connor, class of \u201823. 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